When we decide to lose weight and be healthy, we hope we will now become a “better” person; a new person. One who doesn’t cave to temptations. One who isn’t lazy. One who makes edifying choices. One who follows through on commitments.
While we may be able to achieve much growth in these areas, we remain perfectly fallible in our humanity. All will continue have have moments of weakness. All will make ill-advised choices. Trying to achieve a perfectly obedient personality is not the avenue to take. It only leads to frustration, failure, and disgust with ourselves.
What I think actually can happen is that we get better at working with our complicated, human selves. Namely, we can adopt systems and pick up tools that buttress our fallible; build scaffolding around us to prop up what is vulnerable.
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Such systems are always personalized and born from an honest and compassionate examination of our common pitfalls.
We don’t necessarily change our lives by first changing our inherent and ingrained personhood so much as change our environments to protect us from our inflamed desires. With that protection in place, we can begin experience serenity and some much needed separation from our more sabotaging behaviors.
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